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 Although the level may vary, generally, anyone, male or female, with a face that generally impress lookers as being 10 out of 10 in beauty (It could be less, because the main point here is  express a shocking effect) could have lived through psychotic reaction to their existence that was fighting that existence. Therefore the self recovery may depend on seeing that reaction. In doing so, there is a potential hurdle that is unbelievable in its difficulty and how much it lingers and needs to be considered again and again. I am referring to the potential capability of such people to show characters that are far from fitting the reality of their real position, and how much weight we give to the actions of a person should reflect back morally on him. If you think that is not a big deal then that itself could be supporting this view because of not looking enough at the micro level which such people master. Anyone remember my term "deceptive psychotics"? That was a term I made mainly based on those with whom I lived then noticed a similar phenomenon in serial killers and the term sociopath. But I think that we need to be carful not to confuse symptoms with causations. I think that like those here, sociopaths could be just fighting reality but in different direction. Anyway, I think that at least with those here, since the issue is about fighting reality, to begin with, such capability to internally deny reality should not be surprising. The only way I can see out of this is to keep focusing on the outer facts and carefully consider their weight again and again, which is a process that I myself is probably still very far from having it take me to where internally I feel what happened to me in the environment in which I lived as I should without the psychotic deception and disguise of those who where around me.

To give an example about the difficulty here, my father had four sisters and two brothers, and one of the brothers never entered the place where I was living (Except one time later because of fleeing Baghdad at the beginning of the gulf war of the 1990). It only very late occurred to me that his reaction could be because of the dirtiness of the conspiracy on me where I lived and the requirement on visitors to adhere to it.  With all the pressure and disregard I faced that focused on me being the youngest without me knowing the real reason behind it, the sky was closer to me from expecting that the eldest person in my father's family cared that much about me. Although the kind of character deception was a huge factor in making me affected by that, it is not the example I sought here. What I want to mention here is how the oldest brother to me at least one time said criticizing how that uncle told him when he visited that one ought not to do much visiting to his relatives (imagine the kind of moral dirtiness that made that uncle of mine says something like that for apparently such short visits especially in an environment where at least fake offering to host a guest is a must like there) and I listen to that with the probability of seeing a potential for something bad even close to make that brother deserve even close to be treated that way feels rejected like trying to fit a one foot inside a one inch square box. 

As for why did he risk saying that in front of me, I think it is part of enjoying the strength of his deception and/or psychotic way to prove how that uncle was wrong for reacting that way. Actually that was not the only time I felt my outside appearance was used as an argument for that what was being done to me was not that bad. But aside from how one can be affected by a thing without recognizing what affects him or even just being affected, someone could have amputated a leg of mine from birth then made me required to walk miles every day and I may still try to laugh and live my life like no problem if he was able to make me not detect that amputation as something special to me or otherwise I could be told why are you complaining of something everyone have to go through?